Shower anyone?

Momma let’s talk you!

You are wearing a newborn to clean, cook, sleeping with a baby mildly attached to you - you name it!

Have you showered???

Ate a meal while it’s remotely warm?

Had an opportunity to exercise?

Maybe you haven’t even noticed that you aren’t doing any of those things - I was one of those who didn’t really even notice I was too wrapped up in doing of all the other stuff… at-least for awhile but then when I noticed it became a strong point of added stress, more to-do’s that I wasn’t . maybe you don’t feel like your missing out on anything because you don’t want to spend a moment away from your baby. Well, don’t do it for you then - Do it for your baby!

When I wasn’t getting to do the basics for myself, let alone any of the other things humans should do on a regular basis to stay sane, well let’s just say the resentment - depression - anxiety - and even more stress all set in. I am sure you have heard the expression you can’t pour from an empty cup- the statement seems obvious and yet us moms try and do it all the time. We have learned from generations of moms that you are the giver and thus you give- to a fault. Our kids want us at our worst granted but we can give them our best a good majority of the time by allowing ourselves the moments in the day for self care. A shower, getting fully dressed, a whole meal- feeling your best from the inside allows you to give your best. I know that this allowance - the forgiveness almost you will need to give yourself in order to indulge in that walk around the block will be a challenge. Just hear me out though - Not caring for yourself is a spiral, and I speak from experience. We all know I have two birth babies right - my eldest was born at the “height” of my career taking off so I worked crazy hours I was out of town a lot - this poor baby spent about 12 hours in daycare every day. I felt that regret when my baby was born on a self conscious level (initially) so I stayed with her a lot more- she is also a “covid baby” so I was working from

Home for almost 2 years. The little ones personality is also more demanding - she was breastfed versus bottle so naturally around more. Well, I didn’t work out… like ever I just didn’t have the time I thought I needed. (The hour I would have done in the past- save that learning curve for another day because wrong again.). Well not working out, snacking between baby demands - has had an effect on my body. I have gained weight, libido is down, the internal hormonal wreckage is yet to be discovered- this is destroying my self esteem. Now I am fully aware of this cycle and this is our current day so partly while I felt I should share some self care topics with you is now I am trying to get back in shape and while that is not importing everyone it is to me and I know if I don’t I’ll start body shaming myself - commenting how fat I look in a picture - wearing u flattering clothes if I get “dressed up” at all. I do y want my daughter to see me doing that especially in Her young impressionable pre puberty years! See because if you wanted your kids to value self care to value self love then you have to do them too. It’s more than just not having the energy to give to your kids when your ran dry it’s that when you operate on empty they see that is how they should be and that’s surely not what we want for them.

So it’s never too late in your parent journey - my eldest and I do these things now too.

Tell yourself you can! These are habits to grow and start simple no need to jump in full with a spiritual mental and physical plan - just practice telling yourself it’s ok to do those things and try a brisk walk, a shower, sitting down for breakfast.

I have some mantra cards to share for a whole 30 days to reset your mind for forgiveness to yourself and self love. I know this isn’t easy and maybe you don’t know where to start- I got you! Next post I will give you some ideas on how to get after these self care tasks. (Because sometimes you are the only one around, and yes that make this a bit more stressful to try). Stuck with me mama - it’s a new world and you deserve to be taken care of too.